Archive for Sexual Purity

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July 9, 2013  [Sexual Purity]   Caitlin writes: “Growing up in the church meant that I was well exposed to the idea of sexual purity. It came up more and more often the older I got, especially during middle and high school. I heard many different leaders talk about it; it was discussed in many small groups and Bible studies; I even owned a purity ring and signed the pledge that said I would not have sex until marriage. However, it wasn’t until I was 19 and in my first serious relationship (a relationship that, after more than 2 years, is still one of the biggest blessings in my life) that I really took it upon myself to delve into God’s command and His reasoning behind it. Read More→

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June 28, 2013 [Sexual Purity, Your Letters] Here are some more of your letters testifying about the joys of sexual purity.

Karen, My husband and I were virgins until marriage but it was not without great temptation towards the end of our engagement. In fact, we often tell others who are wanting to wait that once they decide to get married the engagement should be no longer than 6 months if possible (unless you can live FAR away from each other).  However, we did make it and it has been well worth it. Even from the beginning of our marriage our intimate times have been very comfortable, no worries of being compared to another and we know pretty much how to communicate our needs. There are still Read More→

Share Button 2, 2013 [Sexual Purity, Your Letters] These are just some of the letters I have received to my open request to hear from readers who were virgins or practiced sexual purity before they were married. I would love to hear your story too. – Karen

Karen, My husband and I have been brought up in conservative homes and went to a christian college. Even though we went to a Christian college, we know of some couples from our school who didn’t wait to have sex after marriage or got pregnant. We felt we should do the right thing and wait and yes, we were virgins before we got married, and we have been married for 43 years now.  I’m not saying we didn’t have problems with our marriage, but I can say that we are truly both content with each other and things just get sweeter and sweeter as the years go by… – Heather


Dear Karen, My husband and I were both virgins when we married at a relatively young age (by today’s standards). I can personally attest to the great confidence that this provided both of us and still provides to this day.  Our marriage bed is Read More→

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crowder-weddingJune 28, 2013 [Sexual Purity]  The moving story of a man who came out–despite cruel bullying–as someone who loved God more than man.  Here is Steven Crowder’s testimony: As anyone who’s read my abstinence column  could guess, my wedding is something that I’ve looked forward to for quite some time. After having tied the knot at the end of August, I can now say beyond all shadow of a doubt, that it was everything I’d hoped and prayed that it would be since childhood. (I’d also prayed to be bitten by a radioactive spider and develop sticky hands, but… I was an idiot.)

Let me preface this column by saying this: my wife (I have to get used to saying that) and I not only waited sexually in every way (no, we didn’t pull the Bill Clinton and technically avoid “sex” sex,) but we didn’t shack up as live-ins and most importantly, we courted each other in a way that was consistent with our publicly professed values.

We did it right. Read More→


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April 5, 2013 [Your Letters, Sexual Purity] Karen, My husband and I were both virgins when we married at a relatively young age (by today’s standards). I can personally attest to the great confidence that this provides both my husband and I.  That is, that our marriage bed is undefiled and this beautiful intimacy is known only to each of us within the bounds of the marriage.

We have now been married close to 25 years and are still very much in love (ok – I admit he drives me crazy sometimes and sometimes he gets sick of me for a day or two – but we have never faltered or wavered in our deep loyalty and love for each other).  I completely agree that this allows for a more contented view of marriage.  Isn’t it always the way though….that when we follow God’s path it leads to peace and joy and the ability to weather the storms. Read More→


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